Few would argue that the U.S. is characterized by a sexually-charged culture. Thanks to technology, sex is abundantly available via digital entertainment. Dating apps make it easier than ever for people to “hook up” for casual sexual encounters. Birth control and accepting attitudes toward sexual behavior are also plentiful.
In spite of the amount of sex we are surrounded by, Americans are actually having less sex than they did 20 years ago. According to research published by the Archives of Sexual Behavior, American adults had sex about nine fewer times per year in the early 2010s compared with the late 1990s. Surprisingly, the publication concluded that the decrease in sexual frequency was not caused by an increased use of pornography or longer working hours. So, you may wonder, why are we getting it on less than previous generations?
Reasons Why We’re Having Less Sex
Here are some possible reasons behind the decrease in sexual frequency:
- Singles: Fewer people have a steady or marital partner. If you don’t have a committed partner, you may have to work harder to have a sexual encounter.
- Couples: There’s a decline in sexual frequency among couples—living together or married.
- Parents: Today’s parents are busy and highly involved in the lives of their children. Plus, people are having children later in life, which naturally leaves them less energy for sexual activities.
- Technology: In the bedroom, couples are spending more time looking at their devices than each other.
- Health: Many medications and chronic health problems have sexual side effects. Some cancer survivors, in particular, have to cope with the sexual side effects caused by cancer treatment.
Finding the Magic Number
If you’re wondering what’s normal for sexual frequency, you’re not alone. But the truth is that this number varies from couple to couple. In fact, sexual needs vary from person to person. It’s even difficult for researchers to determine if happy couples have sex more often or if having sex more often increases their level of happiness. CNN published an article in 2016 that explained how having sex more than once a week didn’t generate more happiness in the relationship. Thus, once a week is probably a good starting point for most couples looking to improve their sex life in terms of quantity.
- Archives of Sexual Behavior
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