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Talking with Your Gynecologist About Sex

Many women feel uncomfortable asking their doctor questions about sex. It may seem to you that whatever uncertainty or discomfort you’re experiencing is too personal or embarrassing. And often, doctors neglect to ask important questions because they don’t want to make their patients uncomfortable. That’s why AOA doctors want to create a secure and respectful environment to help patients overcome any embarrassment they might feel. Concerns about sexual pain and pleasure are common, but too often these areas get overlooked during a yearly exam. When these topics are not discussed, serious medical conditions can be overlooked.

Talking with your Gynecologist About Sex

Some of the topics you should discuss with your doctor:

  • If sex hurts or causes you discomfort.
  • Vaginal itching – often women will assume they have a yeast infection, but it could be any number of things and it’s important to get tested to make sure you are treating the right condition.
  • Vaginal odor – concerns about vaginal odor are very common. Often the scent is perfectly normal, but if you’re concerned, or if you notice a discernable change in the smell, you should discuss this with your AOA provider, who can help set your mind at ease.
  • Concern about a cheating partner or if you’ve had an affair. While it may be very difficult to discuss this with your doctor, it’s important to talk with your doctor about getting a comprehensive sexually transmitted disease test. It can set your mind at ease and save your life.
  • Leakage – if you find that you are leaking urine, perhaps when you laugh or sneeze, tell your doctor. You will want to rule out underlying conditions that may be causing the problem. It’s often easily treatable.
  • Changes in color or skin texture near your vagina. It is important to tell your doctor because it could be an early warning of a treatable benign skin condition that left untreated can cause severe itching and pain.
  • The proper method of monthly breast self-checks. Your doctor can help you understand what to expect when you do a self-exam and the best way to do the exam to make sure that you’re being thorough and getting to know your own breasts.
  • Hot flashes. This could be a sign of menopause or it could be a symptom of another health condition such as a thyroid imbalance.

Whatever your concerns are, we want you to feel comfortable discussing them with your AOA provider. Be assured that you are not the first person to feel the way you do or to have similar concerns. Your AOA doctor is here to help and to make sure that anything impacting your health is addressed. Take your health into your own hands and make sure you get the answers you need to feel confident and healthy.

Learn more about discussing sex with your gynecologist:

9 Things You Should Ask Your Gynecologist

What Your Gynecologist Doesn't Know About Your Sex Life, But Really Should