In a world where everyone seems to be making frequent comparisons, people are often left to wonder whether their own habits are normal. And this is certainly the case when it comes to sexual activity. Many women often wonder if they’re having a healthy amount of sex, but the thing is—there really is no healthy or normal amount.
While researchers may be able to figure out the average amount of times people tend to have sex each week or year, it’s important to remember that the specific number is often different from person to person. One study from the Archives of Sexual Behavior says that American adults tend to have sex about once a week, but the number varies widely based on age. Those in their twenties had sex 80 times each year, on average, whereas those in their 60s had sex just 20 times per year, on average. And that’s quite a difference.
While there isn’t really a standard amount of sex you should be aiming for or aspiring to, having sex at least one time each week has been correlated with increased happiness, according to a study in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science that surveyed more than 30,000 people over the course of 40 years. That said, couples who had sex more than once a week weren’t necessarily any happier than those who had sex once each week, according to that same study.
If health is your primary motivation, you’ll be pleased to know that in other studies, sex has been linked to physical and mental health benefits including a slimmer waistline and hips, lower rates of depression, and improved cardiovascular function.
But aside from being driven by the physical and mental benefits of sex, you also want to make sure your sex life is leaving you and your partner feeling both comfortable and fulfilled. The Mayo Clinic points out that developing a fulfilling sex life doesn’t just appear out of nowhere. Instead, this is something you need to actively work on through communicating with your partner and reflecting on your own needs. To have these conversations with your partner, you’ll want to consider discussing topics like how you experience pleasure and desire, your schedules, whether your sex life has become too routine or predictable, your needs, how you can achieve increased intimacy, or anything else you’re concerned about.
If you would like to meet with a knowledgeable doctor, consider contacting Arizona OB/GYN Affiliates (AOA) at 602-343-6174 or visit www.aoafamily.com. We have offices in Phoenix, Ahwatukee, Casa Grande, Goodyear, Scottsdale, Gilbert and Chandler.